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How to DM a Girl on Instagram

Published June 1, 2024

Sliding into someone’s DM’s on Instagram can be nerve-wracking, especially if you’re trying to make a good impression. Whether you want to make a new friend, network or want to spark some romance, it’s important to know how to create a thoughtful DM. This guide will tell you how to DM a girl on Instagram and best practices.

1: Follow Her First

Before you send a DM, make sure you follow her on Instagram. This not only shows your interest, but gives you a chance to engage with her content. For instance, liking and commenting on her posts can help you get on her radar and show you’re genuinely interested in what she shares. Keep in mind that if she has a private account, she will have to approve you as a follower.

2: Engage With Her Content

Once you’re following her account, be sure to spend some time liking or commenting on her posts. Make sure they are thoughtful comments, and you can also respond to story posts if it’s appropriate.

Doing this can help you establish a connection, which will make your DM less random. Remember that comments should be genuine and respectful. Compliment her work, interests or anything specific that stands out to you.

3: Make Your Profile Appealing

Before sending your DM, make sure your profile is also appealing and represents you well. This means having a clear profile picture, a bio that reflects your personality and a few posts showcasing who you are. She may check out your profile before responding, so it should be something that you’re proud to show off!

4: Write a Friendly Greeting

When you’re ready to send that DM, start with a friendly greeting. Keep it simple and casual.

Here’s an example: “Hey [Name], how’s it going?”

A quick and simple greeting sets a positive tone and is a natural way to start a conversation.

5: Personalize Your Message

When it comes to sending a DM to a girl, personalization is key. Mention something specific that caught your attention. This could be a recent post, a shared interest, or a story she posted. This shows that you’re paying attention and that your message isn’t just a generic “hey.”

Example: “I saw your recent trip to Italy on your stories, and your photos are amazing! Did you have a favorite part of the trip?

7: Be Respectful and Polite

Remember, respect and politeness go a long way. Avoid inappropriate comments, overly forward compliments or anything that could make her uncomfortable. Treat her with the same respect you’d want to be treated with.

8: Be Patient

Don’t expect an immediate response. She could be busy or take her time checking her messages. If she doesn’t respond right away, don’t send multiple follow-up messages. Patience is key.

9: Be Yourself

Authenticity is attractive. Make sure to be yourself and let your personality shine through. Don’t try too hard to impress them or pretend to be someone you’re not. Genuine conversation is the best way to build a connection.

10: Know When to Move On

If she doesn’t respond after a couple of attempts, it’s time to move on. Respect her space and make sure you understand that not everyone will be interested in continuing the conversation.

Final Insights

Sending a DM to a girl on Instagram doesn’t have to be daunting. By following these steps and being yourself, you can make a positive impression. Good luck!

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Jessica is a consultant, researcher, and the editor-in-chief of the Buzzoid blog, who specializes in social media, marketing, and digital strategy. She is a graduate of Antioch College and earned her MBA at Boston College’s Carroll Graduate School of Management, specializing in STEM Management.

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